This is the message broadcasted in our society. We are told that we must get over our hang-ups and simply come to grips with the fact that most teenagers are having sex.
This attitude justifies all sorts of lurid media portrayals of teens. Don't like it? Well, sorry, but you're just out of touch. You're naive. You're ignorant. You're just "too conservative".
Of course, the prevalence of pre-marital sex, we are told, necessitates graphic sex education courses in high school. Just recently parents were in a fury in New York over the new program approved for the city's high schools that--at least to many people--seemed especially inappropriate. The New York Post reported on the details. Among other things. . .
* Kids ages 11 and 12 sort “risk cards” to rate the safety of various activities, including “intercourse using a condom and an oil-based lubricant,’’ mutual masturbation, French kissing, oral sex and anal sex.Is it really the public high school's job to help kids learn about bestiality?
* Teens are referred to resources such as Columbia University’s Web site Go Ask Alice, which explores topics like “doggie-style” and other positions, “sadomasochistic sex play,” phone sex, oral sex with braces, fetishes, porn stars, vibrators and bestiality.
We are told: "Yes". Why? Because most kids are having sex, they are far more experienced than you think, and you are just silly to believe otherwise.
Or so goes the narrative.
The results of a major recent study carried out by the Center for Disease Control (CDC), which shatter such portrayals, are being quietly passed over.
What does it show? David Lapp sums up the most interesting data from the massive report:
From 1988 to 2006-2010, the percentage of never-married males aged 15-19 who have ever had sexual intercourse dropped from 60 percent to 42 percent.Out of touch? Too conservative?
For never-married females aged 15-19, it dropped from 51 percent to 43 percent.
From 2006-2010, of teenagers whose mother has some college or higher, 37 percent of males and 40 percent of females have ever had sexual intercourse.
Of teenagers who live with both biological or adoptive parents, 35 percent of males and 35 percent of females have ever had sexual intercourse.
The latest CDC data remind me of a 2010 study from the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy. It found that 87 percent of teenagers agree that “it is important for teens to be given a strong message that they should not have sex until they are at least out of high school.” Yes, you read that right: that’s teens who are saying that their cultural elders need to give them a strong message about waiting to have sex.
And who was it again that was out of touch?